Introducing Ian Chew, the Founder of Deeper Conversations. In this candid reflection, Ian shares his journey through the ebbs and flows of entrepreneurship. He opens up about the challenges he faced, the coping strategies he employed, and the support systems that have been pivotal in his journey. Through his words, we get a closer look at the intricacies of mental well-being in the world of startups.
What inspired you to become a founder?
Helping others who have the same challenge as me.
Have you ever felt overwhelmed in your journey as a founder?
There were many moments when I felt discouraged by the lack of results (which is common for early-stage businesses). But as we got traction and as I started hiring, I was feeling overwhelmed by a) how to properly compensate talents when the biz is still losing money b) how to focus on the highest-leverage opportunities.
How do you recognize when you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed?
a) wanting to distract myself by browsing the web etc. b) feeling tension/tightness in the body, especially the chest and neck c) wanting to push as hard as possible and ignore everything else.
How has your mental well-being impacted your business or decision-making?
As I mentioned, I was discouraged by the lack of traffic in the first few months. A few things helped a) meditation + journaling to stay with the emotions and to regain perspective b) talking with my inner circle, including my marketing coach, to get advice and encouragement c) most importantly, reminding myself that i) most people would give up at this point — patience is a competitive advantage ii) even if I didn’t get real-world success, the work is still meaningful (I win either way!)
What are the main challenges or stressors you face as a founder?
Starting a biz on my own was challenging, as a) I was much more used to running client businesses b) doubts can fester when you have no one to share your struggles with (though this hasn’t been the case for me). Not sure if I’m really answering this Q ^^”’
Who supports you during challenging times?
As mentioned above, my inner circle: a close friend who started with the same business model, a marketing coach, family, supportive friends. I either text or call them.
Have you considered or undergone professional mental health support?
Yep. I was thinking about getting a therapist in the early days. But my social support was enough to get me motivated again.
What self-care strategies have you adopted?
As mentioned.
How do you balance your professional and personal life?
This is a tough one, LOL. I used to be super strict about never working weekends when I was running client businesses. But my boundaries are a lot more porous with the new business, as I consider it to be my baby project. What I find helpful is a) normalizing my emotional attachment, vs. shaming myself for it b) reminding myself that this is a marathon, not a sprint c) having no-screentime hours (a work in progress!)
What advice would you give to others regarding managing stress and mental well-being?
Talk to people who are either… on the same journey as you OR went through the journey and succeeded OR… trained clinical professionals.
Any feedback or additional suggestions for us?
Oh yea. I think it’s helpful that I’m writing about anxiety / social anxiety. So it’s all very meta haha.
What would you like to understand better or explore further?
I’d try to understand what they do that’s NOT helpful when feeling strong emotions.
Ending Remarks
Ian’s story serves as a reminder that the entrepreneurial path is filled with uncertainties and challenges, but it’s also one of self-discovery and growth. His emphasis on mental well-being, seeking support, and the importance of self-care resonates deeply. As Ian rightly points out, the journey is as much about navigating internal landscapes as it is about external milestones. Whether you’re an entrepreneur or someone looking to understand the nuances of mental health, Ian’s insights provide valuable lessons for all.
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